Monday, March 26, 2007
We always judge "rigth" or wrong" by action, but the problem is an action may be "right' in this time, at this place, to this particular being, but it may be "wrong" in another time, place and another person. This always make us confuse. Few weeks back, when i chit chat with my brother in law, he told me somebody told him, nothing wrong with robbing and stealing, cos the robbers and thieft need to survive. This make him confuse, at one hand he know that the "actions" (rob and steal) is wrong, but what the guy say also have a point.
Guys and gals, if you were me, what will you say? and may I know what is your "right" and "wrong"? care to share?
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
Sunday, March 11, 2007
My wok and the 荷叶all turn black :( Hehehe but oh..... the rice is very nice :P..... hmmmmm I think next time the 荷叶饭 we can use bake instead of steam.
This umbrella "lagi" interesting. I left it at the starbuck in vivo city 2 months ago (Jan). Yesterday when me, Joan ,Michelle and NK pass by the starbuck. Michelle suggest go and ask them whether they still keep it or not.... guess what..... hahahaha they really keep it for me. When Joan go and ask one of the stuff, she immediately know..... just say... "wait for a while!" then she go and take it out.... they must be see it every day during this two month... hahahaha... Thanks all the staff in that Starbuck, thanks guys!!
Friday, March 9, 2007
Ok, then what is rational beliefs and what is irrational belief? Just a simple question, if some one say: " I must have my dinner 7pm tonight." Do you think this is rational or irrational? The answer is irrational. Why? The problem is the word "MUST". Who can be so sure that we can have our dinner in a exact time or place? There are so many unforeseen things around, like traffic or when you want to have you dinner and somebody come and visit you..... This is just a small issue in our life, how about if you say "I must earn my 1st million before 45 years old." This sound familiar right? What happen is we can do it? We will feel sad, disappointed etc... all kind of negative emotion will come up. So if that is the case, is that mean that we better don't have any goal in our life?
No, have a goal or target to achieve is very important. The only thing we need to do is change our irrational thinking to rational thinking. Say it or think it in a preference way. For example, we can just say "I will like to have my dinner 7pm tonight if i can." "I will try my best to earn my 1st million before 45." What do you think? Doesn't this sound much unstress?
Of cause we need to work hard to achieve some thing, but how is the result turn out, we need to accept it at a right/positive attitude. I like a chinese saying 只问耕耘，不问收获. Just work hard and the rewards will come by its own.
The ABCD I am sharing here actually is a councilling approach name RATIONAL- EMOTIVE & COGNITIVE- BEHAVIOR THERAPY. For those who are interested can visit this website http://www.rebt.org/ to read more about it. :)
Thursday, March 8, 2007
In this cast we are assuming the stiuation we meet it will "DEFINITELY" make people angry. But is that so? Most of the time when we talk to others, we get many different reaction. Some may be more angry then us, some may say "chea.... what get so angry? is nothing what.." Why have so many different reaction? Where is the missing link? The answer is "B"
Want to know what is "B"?? Look out for my next post. Or if you know or want to guess, you are most welcome to leave you comment here.
Friday, March 2, 2007
During the Chinese New Year holiday, me and joan went back to KL. we visited my mother in law. Her full time "job" is take care of her parent, our "gong2 & poh2". Gong2 is 90+ and poh2 is almost 90 years old. Like many old people, they start to lose some of their ability. Especial their memory, gong2 even can't remember his son's name. I can see the frustrated on his face.
Look at the photo of the old lady, and think of gong2 and poh2. Who is more lucky? This old lady may no have any body take care of her, but she can take care of herself, may be she feel good even need to work hard. Gong2 & poh2 although have someone to take care of them, but can tell that they are happy. They feel frustrated that why they need some one to take care, why they can't do things by thier own.....
After think over, I feel that all three of them are lucky. :) What do you think?